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Personal Pep Talk

01.28.2015 by oul_admin // 1 Comment

How bad do you want it?

This is the question we ask ourselves when we are on the road to achieving our goals. However, I realized today that this isn’t necessarily the best question we should be asking ourselves. Why? Because it unintentionally brings a feeling of impatience, greed, and the sense of “the end justifies the means” type of attitude. The question we should be asking is…

How do you want it when you get it?

I know this doesn’t make much sense yet but let me explain it a little better. The first question tests the passion you have for completing your goal. The second question tests how you will achieve your goal and confidently assumes that your goal will be achieved. For example we all know I want to be an Olympian. Every day I would subconsciously ask myself that first question. As a result I wanted success as soon as possible. I never broke the rules to get it (although some people do) but I over worked myself and neglected my health sometimes. Have you ever heard the quote “A hardworking healthy athlete is always better than an unhealthy talented athlete”? I thought being a healthy athlete meant no serious injuries or broken bones but I was only half right. A healthy athlete also means you are well rested, not mentally burnt out (by academics in my case), spiritually intact, and eating right. There are so many things that go into it and to develop into a better athlete you must better all of those things with time. Which brings me to the second question.

We’ll switch from the example of an athlete to someone wanting a potential husband. We all know why the first question would be a horrible question to ask yourself in relation to waiting on (preparing for) your future husband. To me it screams desperate but feel free to leave a comment below if you disagree with that outlook. I would like to know what you think. Now back to the second question. The “when you get it” like I said before assumes you will be getting a husband. So faith in that alone should sort of keep you from being anxious or desperate to find one. The “how do you want it” is what I want to focus on. It relates to the quote “you attract what you are”. I feel not much more needs to be said because it is self explanatory. If you want a good husband become the person you want him to be. It’s easy to get a boyfriend (especially if you’re driven by the first question) but it’s harder to meet the right person for you. So if you ever get impatient and are struggling between the questions “How bad do you want it?” versus “How do you want it when you get it?” (which you’ll find happens more often than not) revert to the second question as a means to rid you of thinking that you have to lower your standards for yourself and others in order to achieve your goals in life.

When trying to achieve a goal focus on the person you want to be when you achieve it. The goal does not define you you define it.

Lastly, although I used a husband as an example, a husband should not be a goal or an achievement. It should be seen as something that will happen in God’s will and timing. Your only action should be to “prepare yourself” for becoming a wife by striving to become the “you” God wants you to be.

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~Kassie Marque

Categories // Marque, Uncategorized Tags // boyfriend, husband, inspiration, Kassie, motivation, Track, Track & Field

Track & Field Update

01.26.2015 by oul_admin // Leave a Comment

 Triple Jumpers!
(taken a year ago)

    This week has been full of nothing but learning a ton of lessons. Last weekend I had a Track Meet and realized that I needed to protect my “me time” before competition. I didn’t jump as well as I wanted to but I also wasn’t mentally ready. My Track buddy, who I love no doubt, is the type of competitor that likes to converse before the meet to get her nerves down. I’m the type to enjoy some quiet and alone time. So my track buddy and I tried to find a happy median but I still couldn’t get into a competitive mindset until before my last jump when my coach said to act like I was at the Olympics in 4th place on my last jump. Then I actually put out a decent jump.

    This weekend went a lot better. Still didn’t jump as far as I wanted to but I jumped much farther than last week. Today was the best Track meet I’ve had in two years spiritually and mentally. (I know that’s a long time to be out of it.) Why? Because when the triple jump was over I got to talk everything through with my coach and two of his old triple jump buddies (40 years old plus I’m sure). My coach was around 54-56ft triple jumper and one of his friends that was competing today was a 55ft jumper (He didn’t jump that today because of his age). During this conversation I was told a few things…

1. Patience is a virtue

2. Not many can do what we do (Triple Jump)

3. This is Fun!

4. We’re here to glorify God and bless others through the talent He’s given us

    We discussed other enlightening things but these were the highlights. They were very simple statements that I’ve heard so many times but I think this was the first time my heart was open enough to receive all of them completely. Statements like the first have always been easy to hear and understand but hard to internalize and live. I hope to start internalizing and living out every positive piece of advice that aids me in my walk with God.

~Kassie Marque

Categories // Marque, Uncategorized Tags // goals, God, Kassie, lessons, Life, Track, Track & Field

Why I Became a Vegetarian

01.19.2015 by oul_admin // 1 Comment

Why I Became a Vegetarian & Ended Up a Pescetarian

Since I became a vegetarian at the age of 12, the question I’ve gotten asked the most is, why did I decide to become a vegetarian?  I’m not going to lie…over the years the questions annoyed me.  I would give quick answers glossing over the reasons.  My answer varied depending on who I talked to and the amount of energy I decided to expend on an answer.  Sad…I know.  

Lately I’ve been even more concerned about my diet, and I decided to revisit the question while I research what my next steps will be.  No, I’m most likely not going to become a vegan or remove bread or another food from my diet, but I may take drastic steps for my health.  I’ve been a pescetarian (fish-eater) for 3 years now, and I’m happy with that decision.

So the real reason.  From a young age, I chose to fast and observe lent.  The fast had to be parent approved, of course.  My parents fasted, but never really observed lent.  In 2003, my sister-in-law (at the time) and I decided to fast from meat during lent. During the time, my mother cooked vegetarian meals for me and incorporated tofu into the dishes she cooked to ensure I had adequate nutrition.  Over time, I found it very easy not to eat meat, and I felt led to give up eating meat.  I know the Lord led me to the lifestyle.  Shortly after lent ended, I lost an aunt and an uncle to heart disease.  After this, I knew I needed to be more aware of what I ate and take care of my body the best I knew how.
My mother made it very easy for me to become a vegetarian at home, despite being the sole vegetarian in my family.  My mom cooked delicious meals for me to ensure I got the right nutrients to grow and develop properly.  My dad also supported my efforts, but was more critical of my eating habits in the early stages.   When I went to restaurants with few vegetarian options I would get extra sides to fill me and always get a healthy portion of bread.  For years, my dad called me a “carbotarian”, and he had a right to do so.  It took me many years to learn how to eat correctly at restaurants and how to cook the right foods to fill myself without loading on carbs.
Despite the amount of carbs I ate, I lost weight when I became a vegetarian.  I remember at my aunt’s funeral, one of my cousins commented on me barely getting any food and getting slim (I’ve never been stick thin).  Her honest feedback was the first of many comments and questions I got growing up.  I remember at a family reunion on the other side of the family, a distant relative could not understand how I (a black female in her family) could not eat meat.  I’ve always treated it as my decision, and my confidence grew in that decision as I grew older and educated myself on how to eat the right way for my body.
I became a pescetarian the spring of my senior year at college.  I noticed that my hair and nail growth was slowing and that it had to be something internal slowing the growth.  I realized stress was part of the culprit, and it was also the lack of protein in my diet at the time.  I prayed about it, consulted with my mother, and decided that adding fish to my diet would be helpful.

Around this time, my mother found out that she had colon cancer.  Colon cancer is one of the deadliest cancers.   When I found out my mother had cancer, I spent countless hours on the internet researching ways to minimize the cancer, the foods to eat, and what to do to decrease effects of chemo.  During that time, I also started making small changes to my diet.  I would send my mother care packages with foods, tea, and other products that would hopefully make her life easier.  
My Mother & I at my Commissioning Ceremony before I graduated from college
I later learned that my late grandmother had colon cancer as well.  Then I put two and two together and decided that I needed to do everything I can NOW to ensure I prevent the disease in my body.  Colon cancer can be prevented if caught early, but as told by my mother’s doctors, once it spreads, colon cancer is not treatable.  I do not believe that fully.  I’ve made sure to ensure that I do not fall into any of the known risk factors: low physical activity, smoking, heavy alcohol, diet high in red meat.
Now my focus is filling my body with healthy foods and staying away from junk.  Food is medicine, and I’ll treat it as such.

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Krystal

Categories // Antonique, Uncategorized Tags // healthy, vegetarian

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