Love & Happiness

My marriage is perfect.  Period.  Next post.  

Nope, we have problems like most married couples.  Since we got married seven months ago, I lost my mother, my dad had a major surgery, we’ve consistently cared for my nephew, and we bought a house.  I didn’t mention that while we were looking for a house, we moved each of our lives into an overstuffed bedroom at my dad’s house.  Our circumstances were less than ideal.

But we did not give up, and now today, our relationship is stronger than ever.  I didn’t rely on my husband to make me happy.  Since our engagement, we’ve heard the saying “happy wife, happy life”  about a million times.  The circumstances of my life did not make me happy though.  My husband could do everything perfect at the beginning of our marriage, and I would not have become happy.  

I honestly believe that happiness is a choice, and that you shouldn’t rely on anyone to make you happy (single or married).  My husband can help me be happier, but my sole happiness is not in his hands.  By living on my own before the marriage, I learned that I have to learn how to make myself happy.  

The bible calls husbands to love their wives, and women to respect their husbands.  It also says that God should be the focus of your marriage.  These two things are what we focus on in our marriage, and we’re in it for the long haul.  

When I married my husband, I said that our marriage is forever (ups and downs and all), and I meant it.